Abuse: I know it is hard to believe at the moment, but please know that it was not your fault. You did not and do not deserve to be hurt. You deserve the very best. If you haven't told anyone about what happened, please think about it. Talking about it, even just to a tumblr follower will help you in the long run.
Post traumatic stress disorder: If you have nightmares and flashbacks about your past, it's ok. It doesn't mean that you are weak, not at all, it just means that your brain is having trouble coping with what happened and is trying to find a way to. Talking to someone about what happened will help you. It won't be easy and it will take time, but eventually it willl fade away with help.
Rape: It was not your fault. He/she had no right to take advantage of you. You never asked for it. It wasnt because of what you were weariing or how much you drank...if you never said yes its not consensual. If you couldnt stop the person that doesnt mean you were weak or deserved it. You aren't alone. I am here for you.
Anxiety: Its ok to be not ok. Being anxious doesn't make you weak. Just remember to take deep breathes and try to meditate. It's going to be ok. I am here for you.
Self Harm: I know how hard it is to deal with the urges to cut or hurt yourself in some way. Please know that I am here for you whenever you need someone to talk to. You don't need to hurt yourself. You dont deserve pain. You are amazing. i hope one day you believe me.
Eating disorders: No matter what size jeans you wear, you are beautiful. The number on the scale does not determine your worth. Food is fuel for your body, just like cars need gas your body needs food. Food wont make you fat ugly disgusting or anything negative. You are beautiful just the way you are. You are worthwhile. You are important.
Depression: Unable to get out of bed today? that's ok. Just curl up with a blanket and snuggle under your sheets. You are ok. Even the darkest nights will end. You can't see rainbows without a storm, but this storm will pass. I am proud of you just for being alive. If you were able to get out of bed, i am proud of you. If you stayed in your pjs all day, i am proud of you. If you tried to smile but couldn't I am proud of you. If you managed to smile, I am proud of you.
Suicidal: I know it is hard. I know you are struggling. But I promise you it will get better. Maybe not tomorrow or next year, but eventually your life will turn around. I am so proud of you for being alive when you feel all hope is lost. Please never give up. You deserve to live. I am here for you. Please never give up, not tonight, not tomorrow, not ever. Talk to someone and let them help you. You are so worthwhile. I love you. You are not alone.
Anonymous asked: You're beautiful but I hate your hair! Natural hair really should not be a thing. It's called nappy for a reason right?? Lol well you're pretty still!!! Please don't get mad :)
Seriously, all I can do is just blink and give you that black girl side eye.
You just said my natural, organic hair texture should not be a thing at all because YOU don’t like it. Let me suffocate you with my fro until you learn how to shut up because you’re just… You shouldn’t be a thing.
Anonymous asked: This blog is racist. I don't see any Caucasian women on here ever and we have natural hair too..fuck off!
Shut the hell up y’all can’t have everything, be everything, do everything, and say everything.
Y’all don’t do protective styles in the winter time, nor have the same general issues, triumphs, and struggles with your hair so this blog CLEARLY is not about your hair so unless you have the black blood of at least one parent running through your veins right now you can blue-skiddo the hell off my blog and go to one of the other THOUSANDS of blogs dedicated to your hair and you period. I’m not here for ya booboo
EYE. DEW. NAWT. KAIR.
Why do white people want to use the words NATURAL HAIR to describe their hair. The reason we had to adopt this was because of your “natural hair”. We are ridiculed and have our livelihoods in jeopardy because we dare to wear the hair that is ours. THAT GROWS OUT OF OUR HEADS. Why wont they just take the time to do research on why we had to reclaim our hair and be proud of it. Why can’t they just see that nothing that is ours belongs to them. Natural hair refers to black women who embrace their hair without using relaxers to achieve the straight hair that you have. Black women have applied chemicals and heating tools to their hair for decades to erase the very essence of their blackness in hopes of getting a good job of being seen as beautiful. HOW DARE YOU try and take something that we have work so hard for. No you do not have NATURAL HAIR. You have the hair that has been used as a weapon against black women and black beauty. Don’t come to our space where we embrace the glory that is our hair and try to cause pain. And just so you know the fact that you are coming to a black blog where black people discuss issues that pertain to BLACK people is the very definition of RACISM. Trying to promote your feelings on something that does not include you.
Seriously, Anon. It is eminently feasible for a white person to have a perfectly presentable hair style that requires the following maintenance:
* Wash and condition once every one day to one week.
* Brush/comb it in the morning. Maybe. Mine’s short enough that combing it is pointless.
* Maybe run a little product through it. Possibly use a barrette, headband, elastic loop, some pins, or a pair of sticks to keep it out of your face.
* That’s it! Enjoy the fact that nobody thinks your hair means anything about your professionalism or social acceptability!
African hair has a stigma, so people with that kind of hair have to choose between very high-maintenance, often damaging styles that are more socially acceptable because they make the hair look less African… or “natural” styles that are less damaging but often still high maintenance, and then they also have to deal with the bullshit that racist society and racist people load on them for not imitating white fashion.
And THAT is why we don’t need to belong to natural hair communities. Dumbass.
This rant of no interest to anyone is prompted by my utter fed-up-itude with people around me assuming that any lady wearing dreds, twists, cornrows, an Afro, or a shaved head must have an “attitude” and is “trying to be edgy.” Bullshit! She probably just doesn’t want to put freaking toxic chemicals on her scalp or spend a fortune on extensions, you ignorant horse’s anus!
Wow. Very good